How to Support a Loved One with Cancer: Practical Tips That Really Help

When someone you love is diagnosed with cancer, it can leave you feeling helpless. you want to say the right thing. You want to do something—anything—that makes their life a little easier or their day a little brighter. But knowing how to help isn't always obvious. 

At the Archbold Cancer Center in Thomasville, Georgia, we know that cancer care extends far beyond doctors' visits and treatment plans. It's about community. It's about connection. and it's about the small, everyday gestures that remind someone they're not alone in their fight. 

Here are some thoughtful, practical ways to support a loved one with cancer—because sometimes, showing up means more than you realize. 

What to Say (and What Not to Say)

Words matter. And while you can't say the perfect thing to make cancer disappear, you can offer words that comfort and encourage your loved one. 

Helpful things to say:

• "I'm here for you."
• "I don't know exactly what to say, but I care about you."
• "I'm thinking about you."
• "I'm praying for you."
• "I'm here to listen anytime."
• "Is there a specific way I can help this week?"

What to avoid saying:

• "Everything happens for a reason."
• "At least it's not worst."
• "You have to stay positive!"
• Unsolicited medical advice or stories about someone else's cancer experience. 

"It's perfectly find to acknowledge that you lack the right words," says Wendy Jacobs, Breast Cancer Navigator at the Archbold Cancer Center. "Genuine, kind, and supportive remarks will always hold more value than those that feel perfect, polished, or rehearsed." 

Thoughtful Ways to Offer Help (That Truly Help)

Saying. "Let me know if you need anything," sounds nice, but it puts the burden on your loved one to ask. Instead, Wendy suggests offering something specific or just stepping in quietly when appropriate.

Here are some ideas:

• Drop off a meal (bonus points for freezer-friendly options or healthy snacks for treatment days)
• Offer to drive them to appointments or sit with them during chemo
• Run errands like grocery shopping, pharmacy pickups, or dry cleaning
• Help with yard work or simple home repairs
• Organize a meal train or schedule of helpers
• Provide childcare or pet care
• Send a handwritten note, care package, or their favorite treat just because

"Remember, the small, thoughtful actions often mean the most," says Wendy. 

Respect Their Boundaries and Energy Levels

Cancer treatment is exhausting—physically, emotionally, and mentally. Some days, your loved one might want to talk or visit. On other days, they may simple need quiet and rest. 

Be patient and flexible. Let them set the pace. And most importantly, Wendy recommends:

• Don't take it personally if plans change.
• Keep checking in—even if they don't always reply right away.
• Celebrate the good days and honor the hard ones. 

Showing Up During Treatment and Recovery

Support doesn't stop after a round of chemo or a surgery. Recovery—both physical and emotional—can be a long road. 

Here's how you can keep showing up:

• Mark treatment milestones with a card or small celebration
• Offer rides to follow-up appointments or physical therapy
• Help with housework or grocery shopping when energy is low
• Keep checking in weeks or months later—it still matters
• Just listen. Sometimes your presence is a gift.

Resources Available Through Archbold Cancer Center

At the Archbold Cancer Center, we believe cancer care should go beyond medicine. It's not just about treating the disease; it's about supporting every part of a patient's life, including the emotional, practical, and financial challenges that can come with a cancer diagnosis. That's why we offer a wide range of resources designed to help both patients and their loved ones navigate this difficult season with confidence, comfort, and compassion. 

Here's how we can help: 

• Oncology Nurse Navigators
  Think of them as your personal guide through treatment. From scheduling appointments to answering questions and helping you understand what's next, our nurse navigators walk beside patients every step of the way. 
   
• Support Groups & Counseling Services
  Sometimes, the best support comes from people who truly understand what you're going through. We offer access to support groups for patients and caregivers, as well as counseling services for those who require a safe space to discuss their concerns. 
   
• Nutrition Guidance for Cancer Patients
  Eating well during cancer treatment can feel overwhelming. Our registered dietitian offers practical advice on managing nausea, maintaining strength, and finding foods that feel good on tough days. 
   
• Financial Counseling & Resource Assistance
  We know that medical bills and insurance questions can add extra stress. Our team can help patients and families navigate financial resources, payment options, and available assistance programs. 
   
• Educational Materials for Patients & Caregivers
  Knowledge is empowering. We provide trusted information and helpful materials so patients and their families feel informed and prepared at every stage of the journey. 

You Don't Have to Navigate Cancer Alone

Whether you're a patient, a family member, or a friend looking for ways to help, the Archbold Cancer Center is here for you. Our team is ready to offer expert medical care, guidance, resources, and emotional support that can make all the difference. 

Learn more about our cancer services and supportive resources at archbold.org/cancer or call us at (229) 584-5400.